Meeting your match

And not in the way you'd expect.

So after a couple of drinks, it seems that this guy was very talkative and tried to convince me how cynical he was.

"I don't think you're cynical at all," he said

"Erm... A lot of people would disagree with you there"

"Really?" he said

And then he went on to tell me how he didn't believe that love existed past the second year of a relationship and that couples who had been together for 10 or 20 years was little more than convenience or compromise. And while I agreed that a relationship's function changes after a long period of time, I had to also agree that I wasn't *that* cynical; function doesn't negate love. Love and care are things that always exist regardless of the frequency of sex or the intensity of passion.

And so bent on this point he was that I started to wonder why he was telling me all these things.

I later asked how bothered he was about seeing me again.

"I am not bothered. I mean, I would like very much to see you again; I like you a lot. But in London these things so easily fall apart. People lose touch or get lost or hide behind lies and their own little world here that dating becomes an impossibility"

And I think that about sums up everyone's dating life in this city.

After a long hug goodbye, I am left wondering if I will ever see him again, or if he is just another intervention; another lesson for me to learn. It's funny how the most beautiful flower can also be the most poisonous

Complete and utter apathy

Have you ever been asked out by someone, only to wonder what the point is because you know how it's going to go anyway? Or has anyone ever smiled at you on the tube only to wonder what the point is because nothing ever happens? Have you ever been in a club and wondered what you were doing there because you're not even having fun anymore and the drink isn't doing anything? Has your fuckbuddy ever turned round and said to you "we need to stop doing this because I like you" and it didn't seem to register? Have you ever contacted someone online, for them to ask you on a date and you don't want to go? And for someone else to discount you offhand and you can't be bothered arguing with them anymore because you stand to acheive nothing?

No?

Me neither.